Showing posts with label success secrets. Show all posts
Showing posts with label success secrets. Show all posts

Friday, April 22, 2011

Why God Gives Pain and Suffering


This is one of the best explanations of "Why God Gives Pain and Suffering" that I have read...

A man went to a barbershop to have his hair cut and his beard trimmed.
As the barber began to work, they began to have a good conversation.
They talked about so many things and various subjects.
When they eventually touched on the subject of God, the barber said: "I don't believe that God exists."
"Why do you say that?" asked the customer.

Barber said: "Well, you just have to go out in the street to realize that God doesn't exist. Tell me, if God exists, would there be so many sick people? Would there be abandoned children? If God existed, there would be neither suffering nor pain. I can't imagine a loving God who would allow all of these things."

The customer thought for a moment, but didn't respond because he didn't want to start an argument.

The barber finished his job and the customer left the shop.

Just after he left the barbershop, he saw a man in the street with long, stringy, dirty hair and an untrimmed beard.

He looked dirty and unkempt. The customer turned back and entered the barber shop again and he said to the barber: "You know what? Barbers do not exist."
"How can you say that?" asked the surprised barber.

"I am here, and I am a barber. And I just worked on you!"

"No!" the customer exclaimed. "Barbers don't exist because if they did, there would be no people with dirty long hair and untrimmed beards, like that man outside."

"Ah, but barbers DO exist! That's what happens when people do not come to me."

"Exactly!" affirmed the customer. "That's the point! God, too, DOES exist! That's what happens when people do not go to Him and don't look to Him for help. That's why there's so much pain and suffering in the world."

Sunday, September 19, 2010

Talking in confidence : How to do it in 6 steps

Talking with confidence maybe one of your biggest challenge at work if you are a newbie. In fact, even some veterans at work still can’t speak confidently. So how do you overcome it?

1. Know Your Material
If you want to talk with confidence, the first thing you must know is your material. This can mean your work process, a project or future plans of your unit. Every discussion has an agenda, planned or unplanned. It can be a formal meeting or a chat by the corridor. Know what is being discussed and know your material well.
           How do you know your material well? Get involved. Know your role in the bigger scheme of things. To start talking with confidence know who does what, why and how. When you know your work you will start talking confidently.

2. Organize Your Thoughts
Sometimes, you DO know your material. However, when it comes to a time the right words does not seem to come out. Or people do not seem to know what you have said. Learn to organize your thoughts. When your thoughts are organized you will start talking confidently.
         How do you organize your thoughts? One way is to break it into sections. So, organize your thoughts into – what, why, how.
          What is being discussed, state your point. Why is the situation so? How will the next steps be? When you section your thoughts that way you will not miss out any pertinent points.

3. Practice, Practice, Practice
Of course, as with everything talking with confidence at work takes practice. Take every opportunity to practice. One way is the tried and tested method of doing it in front of the mirror. Imagine a situation of an agenda that will be discussed the next day. Do it in front of the mirror.
              Another way is to practice in small groups. There will inevitably be smaller meetings. Perhaps one that has only three to four persons, take the opportunity to speak up. When you do it often enough you become more confident.

4. Project Your Voice
The less confident you are the softer your voice. One way to talk confidently is to project your voice. Quite literally, speak up! Talk louder, when you project your voice you naturally become more confident. Do not swallow your words or mumble.

5. Read More
Reading more is one way to start talking confidently. When you know more, you have a lot more to add to discussion. You will also have the conviction to add to discussion. You start talking with confidence, as you know you can bring something to the discussion.

6. Know and Believe You Have Something To Offer
There is only one you. Your experience and background is different from the rest. The way you interpret things can be different from the rest due to your background. Talk with confidence knowing that you bring something unique to the discussion, believe that you have something to offer that others cannot. There is only one you.
Talking with confidence takes practice but with each practice the results can be immediate. One good result feeds on the next and before long you will be a natural and confident communicato.

8 SUCCESS secrets from Motivational experts


               The views on success of many of the nation's top motivational speakers and authors can be summarized into 8 success secrets. These ideas were taken from interviews with 15 of the nation's top motivational speakers and authors, including motivational speaker Brian Tracy, authors Les Brown and Dr. Wayne Dyer, sales motivator Mike Ferry, seminar leader Patricia Fripp, and "Chicken Soup" authors Jack Canfield and Mark Victor Hansen.
This is an effort to study how successful people think and uncover what drives them. If you truly understand their belief systems, levels of commitment and positive attitudes toward life--and integrate these ways of thinking into your own belief system--you should be able to succeed at anything you put your mind to.

These 8 "secrets" are:
  1. Take 100 percent responsibility for your life
  2. Live your life "on purpose"
  3. Be willing to pay the price for your dreams
  4. Stay focused
  5. Become an expert in your field
  6. Write out a plan for achieving your goals
  7. Never give up
  8. Don't delay

1. Take 100 percent responsibility for your life 

                 In a society where people blame everything from their parents to the government for their failure to get ahead in life, these men and women refused to buy into the mentality that says "I could succeed if only it weren't for _____."
                 They realized that when you say someone or something outside of yourself is preventing you from succeeding, you're giving away your power to that someone or something. You're saying, "You have more control over my life than I do!"
                 Successful people don't buy into this victim thinking. Rather, their personal credo is "If it's to be, it's up to me!"

Example of Les Brown

                Consider Les Brown. Abandoned by his parents at birth and labeled "educable mentally retarded" by his schoolteachers, he had every reason for giving up on himself and his dreams. But when a high school teacher told him "Someone else's opinion of you does not have to become your reality," Brown realized in that moment that his future lay in his own hands. He went on to become a state legislator and author, and today earns $20,000 per hour as one of America's top motivational speakers.
                 What Brown understood was that there are certain things in life you can't control, such as nature, the past and other people. But there are things you absolutely can control, such as your thoughts and your actions. Taking 100 percent responsibility for your life is one of the most empowering things you can do for yourself.

2. Live your life "on purpose"
                  Perhaps what separates these motivational superstars from others more than anything else is that they live their lives "on purpose." That is, they are doing what they believe they were put here to do.

Dyer has purpose

                  Professional public speakers will tell you that the time they feel most alive is when they are on stage, connecting with an audience. Says Wayne Dyer, "Having a sense of purpose in your life is the most important element of becoming a fully functioning person!"
The difference between living your life on purpose and not living it on purpose is like night and day. The latter consists of simply getting through the week with the least amount of problems while expending just enough effort to get by.

Do the job now

                   But, when you live your life on purpose, your main concern is doing the job right. You love what you do--and it shows. Your conviction is as evident as it is persuasive. And you will find that people want to do business with you because they sense your commitment to giving your all.

Mike Ferry found purpose

                    How do you live your life on purpose? By finding a cause you believe in and creating a business around it. For example, Mike Ferry, who was once a top salesperson selling audiotape programs, believed realtors needed help developing sales skills. So he started The Mike Ferry Organization, a seminar and training company for the real estate industry. Today, he earns more than $10 million a year from seminar and product sales. Like Ferry, once you get your life on purpose and focus on providing value for others, the money will take care of itself.


3. Be willing to pay the price for your dreams

                      Wanting a big house, a luxury car or a million dollars in the bank is all very nice, but the problem is that practically everyone wants these things. The question then is, "Are you willing to pay the price to get them?"
                      This is one of the major differences between the successful and the unsuccessful. Successful men and women find out what it's going to cost to make their dream come true. Then they find a way to make it happen. Most importantly, they don't complain about the work it takes to achieve their dreams.
                       Les Brown says he has a callus on his left ear. Why? "When I decided to get into speaking, I had no credentials, no reputation, no credibility and no experience. So I had to call a lot of people," Brown explains. "I called over a hundred people a day, day in and day out, to ask for an opportunity to speak to their group. This callus is worth several million dollars!"
You can get practically anything you want in life--if you are willing to pay the price.

4. Stay focused

                     Every day, we are bombarded with hundreds of tasks, messages and people all competing for our time. This is why the ability to focus on your goal is so critical to achieving it. Focusing requires giving up some things in the present because you know the time invested will pay off big-time down the road.

Chicken Soup efforts

                    When Jack Canfield and Mark Victor Hansen compiled their first Chicken Soup for the Soul book, they were turned down by 30 publishers. But instead of giving up, they stayed focused on their goal. "We did three to four radio or newspaper or magazine interviews a day, five days a week, for a whole year," Canfield recalls. In every interview, they talked about why the country needed this book now more than ever.
                    Eventually, a small publisher called Health Communications Inc. decided to take a chance and publish the book. It not only became a number-one bestseller but also hatched an entire series of Chicken Soup books that have sold more than 10 million copies! That's the power staying focused on your goal can give you.

Focus on dreams

                     Spend as much of your day as you can focusing on achieving your goals and dreams. Every day, ask yourself, "Is what I'm doing right now bringing me closer to my goal?" If it's not, do something that will. Focusing is like any habit: the more you do it, the easier it gets.

5. Become an expert in your field

                  One striking factor about all 15 motivational speakers I interviewed is how seriously they take their profession. Their drive to be the best at what they do is phenomenal. They'll do almost anything if they think it will help improve their speaking skills.

Fripp took classes

                   For example, Patricia Fripp, who speaks to Fortune 500 executives on how to become more successful, took a comedy workshop and hired a private speech coach because she wanted to improve her speaking ability. Fripp did this after she had already been named "One of the Ten Most Electrifying Speakers in North America" by Meetings & Conventions magazine. To Fripp, being one of the best simply wasn't good enough; she wanted to be the best she could be.

What do you do?

                   If someone followed you around at your business all day with a video camera to make a how-to tape for people who want to do what you do, would it be a tape you'd be proud of? Or embarrassed about? If the latter, make the decision today to work toward being the best in your field. How? By studying the experts. The quickest way to become successful is to find out what the best are doing, then do what they do.


6. Write out a plan for achieving your goals

                    Taking the time to write out an action plan, or map, for how you're going to achieve your goals is one of the best ways to get there faster.

Brian Tracy set goals

                     Brian Tracy, one of America's most successful business sales trainers and speakers, points out, "Goals that are not in writing are not goals at all. They are merely wishes or fantasies."

Need a map

                     Most people try to reach their goals without taking the time to write out an action plan. This is like trying to drive from Los Angeles to Denver without a map. Forget the fact that your odds of reaching your destination are extremely slim. The frustration and wasted time, energy and money will probably cause you to give up long before you get to the Rockies. With a map in hand, however, you'll not only enjoy the trip much more, but you're also virtually assured of arriving at your destination in the shortest time possible.


7. Never give up

                   It may sound simple, even obvious, but when you're truly committed to achieving your goal, giving up isn't even an option. You must be willing to do whatever it takes to make it happen.

Dyer never gave up

                   In the mid-1970s, Wayne Dyer quit his job as a professor at Wayne State University to promote his new book, Your Erroneous Zones. However, no major talk show would book the then unknown Dyer. Did he give up? Not on your life. He loaded his car from floor to roof with hundreds of copies of his book, and then spent a year on the road traveling from small town to small town and appearing on any radio or TV talk show that would have him.
Once on the air, Dyer would give out the number of the local bookstore and say that his book was available there. After the interview, he'd quickly drive over to that bookstore, where the manager would say, "Oh, you're Wayne Dyer? We've been getting lots of calls for your book!" Dyer would reply, "Well, I have a case in the car--would you like some?" "Oh, yes! And would you sign some while you're here?"
                   By the end of the year, The Tonight Show was calling him. And by the end of the 1970s, Your Erroneous Zones had become the number-one best-selling nonfiction book of the entire decade. This is what the power of perseverance can do for you.


8. Don't delay

                    In his book Live Your Dreams, Les Brown recalls talking on the phone one day with a friend named Marion. The very next day, Marion's husband called to tell Brown she had died.
A few days later, Les was helping the husband clean out Marion's office when he came across some notes for a play she had been working on. Unfortunately, the play would never be published. Marion was the only one who knew how it was supposed to end, and now she was gone.
The lesson here is that Marion didn't know how much time she had left to accomplish her dreams, and neither do you or I. We must remember that we don't have forever. The clock is ticking, there are no time-outs, and sooner or later your number is going to be called. Top achievers know this, but rather than seeing it as something negative or depressing, they use it to spur them on to go after what they want as energetically and as passionately as possible.


Summary

            Follow the 8 "secrets" from motivational experts and take 100 percent responsibility for your life, live your life on purpose, be willing to pay the price for your dreams, stay focused, become an expert in your field, write out a plan for achieving your goals, never give up, and don't delay. These ideas follow well within the School for Champions philosophy.

SUCCESS Secrets


SUPERIOR RELATIONS

No one is independent in life. We depend on others right from our birth till our death. Every person, no matter how big or small he is a stepping stone to our success. Remember, "A single flower does not make a garland."

UNTIRING EFFORTS

It is a universal law that we cannot get something for nothing. Efforts is the price one has to pay to succeed in life. Abundant supply of energy comes from a healthy body. Denial or excess of any of the three important needs, eating, mating and sleeping affects our health and happiness. Remember "Success is 1% inspiration and 99% perspiration"

CREATIVE THINKING

All of us are gifted with a lot of creative potential. But it lies deep. Just as the sculptor has to chip away some stone with his chisel to release the statue hidden in a block of stone, we have to chip away some of our conventional thinking to release our creative potential. Remember "If you continue to do what you have been doing, you will continue to get only that you have been getting."

CONFIDENT ATTITUDE

A talented man without confidence is like a powerful car without spark plugs. Confidence is a psychological steroid that boosts our power. Remember, "The man who wins is the man who thinks he can"

EFFECTIVE COMMUNICATION

Public Speaking is the springboard to effective speech. It gives you a lot of courage and confidence and earns respect and admiration from the society. It makes our speech lively, interesting, and convincing. Remember, Poets are born; Orators are made,"
SELF MOTIVATION

A 12 year old boy lifter a fallen log from the legs of his father, Four men could barely move it later on. There are many similar cases on record in which unbelievable feats have been accomplished, Once the mind is seeded with a goal, it soars to its magnificent heights to accomplish the goal. Remember, "It is a small seed that grows into a huge tree."

SHARP MEMORY

Memory is a yardstick to measure the capacity utilisation of our brain. The secret of sharp memory lies in systematic storage that facilitates instant retrieval. Everyone of us can have a sharp memory irrespective of age, education and intelligence. Remember, "If you don’t use it, you will soon lose it"

9 Secrets to Career Success: Self-Awareness as a Starting Point for Success


                 Knowing and understanding the 9 secrets to career success is easy. But to practice them takes time and effort. What you need to do is to read and contemplate the issues and questions raised in these 9 secrets of career success.

                  Now, are there really secrets to career success? That should be something you decide when you finish this article. You will learn to know how to gain success in your career whether you are stuck in a rut, thinking about quitting, or positively thinking about your career path. These secrets will hopefully point you in the right direction.
The 9 secrets of career success are divided into 3 main segments. Namely, Self-Awareness, Grow Yourself and Purposeful Effort and Time.


1. Self-Awareness When you are self-aware, you will eventually define what success means to you. Success means different things to different people. Some people may deem having a lot of money as being successful. Some people may deem being able to find time to spend with their family as being successful, even though they may not have a lot materially.
           Laura Nash and Howard Stevenson’s article Success That Lasts (HBR OnPoint Enhanced Edition) broke enduring success into 4 components:
1. Happiness: Feelings of pleasure or contentment about your life 
2. Achievement: Accomplishments that compare favorably against similar goals others have strived for 
3. Significance: The sense that you have made a positive impact on people you care about 4. Legacy: A way to establish your values or accomplishments so as to help others find future success
How do you define your success? If you do not define your success, how would you know you have success?

2. Know What You Want
                      Do you know what you want? Many people know what they DO NOT want. When you ask them what they want they generally tell you what they do not want. They are not the same. Just because you know what you do not want doesn’t mean the reverse is true. Think about it. You don’t want a stressful life. But does it mean you want an exciting life? A calm life? An action packed life? A fun life?
                  Search and be true to yourself. Do you really know who you are? How self-aware are you? If you are not very self-aware then how can you possibly truly know what you want to achieve career-wise? Being successful in your career takes genuine painful self-assessment. Face yourself and ask – what is it I am good at? What motivates me? What keeps me awake late at night? Know yourself and you are on the path to success. This is key to the 9 secrets to career success.

3. Have The Wisdom To Understand
                       You read in many places that if you do what you love then you need not work another day of your life. That is true. But it is also true that we can learn to love what we do. So, you do what you love or love what you do? Too much attention is given to doing what you love. Too little attention is given to loving what you do.
                     Let’s face it; there are many successful people who are successful and happy in their good honest living. These aren’t exactly what they love to do initially. But they took the time and effort to learn and eventually love what they do! Have the wisdom to distinguish a hobby and a vocation. And have the wisdom to know how much you are willing to sacrifice in order to turn what you love into a job that earns a living. They aren’t the same and they take great sacrifices at prices that you may not be willing to pay.
To learn the 9 secrets to career success, first learn self-awareness. When you are self-aware, your journey to career success can begin.

LESSONS FROM TEACHING OF 24 GURUS

1. Spider: Try; try until you succeed Endeavour and Whole creation web design. Moreover, its Intricacy from nowhere - (spirit).

2. Earth: Teaches endurance, Patience bountiful and benevolent.

3. Space: Accommodative and open minded.

4. Fire: Provides awareness knowledge & warmth.

5. Air: Atmosphere unaffected by good or bad.

6. Water: Path of least resistance confrontation and overcomes obstacles.

7. Sun: No- discrimination, treat everyone the same and alike will not differentiate.

8. Moon: Reminds to use moment in time judiciously and wisely.

9. Ocean: Not bothered whenever overwhelming over powering things happen.

10. Python: Contentment what so ever contented satisfied at the moment.

11. Lone Bangle: Too many people too many noise.

12. Honeybees: Take the best in every situation - give the best.

13. Honey-gatherer: Allocate share with all – apportion appropriately.

14. Moth: Control over sense of sight – not to befall for attraction.

15. Fish: Control over sense of taste. Otherwise lured by the bait and trapped.

16. Deer: Control over sense of hearing – not to become prey and victim to vices.

17. Elephant: Control over sense of touch – known for reminiscence.

18. Arrow maker: As a Marker and pointer - aimer acknowledged for concentration.

19. Pigeons: Look before you leap- Do not jump to conclusion.

20. Dancer: Not to depend on others.

21. Snake: Enjoy your own company not to get deceived.

22. Osprey: No attachment/affection.

23. Child: Innocence –for blamelessness- incorruptibility.

24. Larva: You can become what you think – Metamorphosis.

HOW TO STOP WORRING AND START LIVING

Fundamental facts you should know about worry
  1. If you want to avoid worry, do what Sir William Osler did: Live in "day-tight compartments." Don't stew about the futures. Just live each day u ntil bedtime.
  2. The next time Trouble--with a Capital T--backs you up in a corner, try the magic formula of Willis H. Carrier:
    1. Ask yourself, "What is the worst that can possibly happen if I can't solve my problem?
    2. Prepare yourself mentally to accept the worst--if necessary.
    3. Then calmly try to improve upon the worst--which you have already mentally agreed to accept.
  3. Remind yourself of the exorbitant price you can pay for worry in terms of your health. "Those who do not know how to fight worry die young."

Basic techniques in analyzing worry

  1. Get the facts. Remember that Dean Hawkes of Columbia University said that "half the worry in the world is caused by people trying to make decisions before they have sufficient knowledge on which to base a decision."
  2. After carefully weighing all the facts, come to a decision.
  3. Once a decision is carefully reached, act! Get busy carrying out your decision--and dismiss all anxiety about the outcome.
  4. When you, or any of your associates, are tempted to worry about a problem, write out and answer the following questions:
    1. What is the problem?
    2. What is the cause of the problem?
    3. What are all possible solutions?
    4. What is the best solution?

How to break the worry habit before it breaks you

  1. Crowd worry out of your mind by keeping busy. Plenty of action is one of the best therapies ever devised for curing "wibber gibbers."
  2. Don't fuss about trifles. Don't permit little things--the mere termites of life--to ruin your happines.
  3. Use the law of averages to outlaw your worries. Ask yourself: "What are the odds against this thing's happening at all?"
  4. Co-operate with the inevitable. If you know a circumstance is beyond your power to change or revise, say to yourself: "It is so; it cannot be otherwise."
  5. Put a "stop-less" order on your worries. Decide just how much anxiety a thing may be worth--and refuse to give it anymore.
  6. Let the past bury its dead. Don't saw sawdust.

Seven ways to cultivate a mental attitude that will bring you peace and happiness

  1. Let's fill our minds with thoughts of peace, courage, health, and hope, for "our life is what our thoughts make it."
  2. Let's never try to get even with our enemies, because if we do we will hurt ourselves far more than we hurt them. Let's do as General Eisenhower does: let's never waste a minute thinking about people we don't like.
    1. Instead of worrying about ingratitude, let's expect it. Let's remember that Jesushealed ten lepers in one day--and only one thanked Him. Why should we expect more gratitude than Jesus got?
    2. Let's remember that the only way to find happiness is not to expect gratitude--but to give for the joy of giving.
    3. Let's remember that gratitude is a "cultivated" trait; so if we want our children to be grateful, we must train them to be grateful.
  3. Count your blessings--not your troubles!
  4. Let's not imitate others. Let's find ourselves and be ourselves, for "envy is ignorance" and "imitation is suicide."
  5. When fate hands us a lemon, let's try to make a lemonade.
  6. Let's forget our own unhappiness--by trying to create a little happiness for others. "When you are good to others, you are best to yourself."

The perfect way to conquer worry

  1. Prayer

How to keep from worrying about criticism

  1. Unjust criticism is often a disguised compliment. It often means that you have aroused jealousy and envy. Remember that no one ever kicks a dead dog.
  2. Do the very best you can; and then put up your old umbrella and keep the rain of criticism from running down the back of your neck.
  3. Let's keep a record of the fool things we have done and criticize ourselves. Since we can't hope to be perfect, let's do what E.H. Little did: let's ask for unbiased, helpful, constructive criticism.

Six ways to prevent fatigue and worry and keep your energy and spirits high

  1. Rest before you get tired.
  2. Learn to relax at your work.
  3. Learn to relax at home.
  4. Apply these four good workings habits:
    1. Clear your desk of all papers except those relating to the immediate problem at hand.
    2. Do things in the order of their importance.
    3. When you face a problem, solve it then and there if you have the facts to make a decision.
    4. Learn to organize, deputize, and supervise.
  5. To prevent worry and fatigue, put enthusiasm into your work.
  6. Remember, no one was ever killed by lack of sleep. It is worrying about insomnia that does the damage--not the insomnia.